i show affection in a way only those i show affection to know about

romance is the seed to heartbreak - though the silly girls love it as it makes them feel their on a winner - the guys like it as it's an excuse to actually show emotion and care without copping too much abuse from their generalised and stereotypical friends - and he can always fall back on the excuse that he only acted that way in order to get her into bed - which will happen a lot

but romance at it's core is a lie - at least to the vast majority of us - it's playing a role we weren't meant to play - it's telling someone elses story - it's life imitating bubble-gum movies staring guys with nauseating but adorable hair and confusion, and quirky girls stoned on their independence - it makes us feel we're on the right track, living the good life that's spewed-out in the cinemas like hand soap

people go out on their own and tell us they're looking for themselves, and tell us about their spirituality - but it's a lie - a friend and i were walking along the streets of old delhi when we spotted an obvious backpacker sitting on a ledge, looking into the sunset, soaking up the sounds and smells and bullshit - "another pretentious, self-indulgent blog in the making" my friend pointed out to me - (this observation was one of the highlights of my trip) - in reality, people go out on their own looking for themselves only to find themselves in a different reality, but not the romantic one, thinking "now what?" - (it's only when you realise that now-nothing, can you move on, and from their you won't want to talk to anyone about anything) - it's an act and it's romantic and it's false

simple maths - we are all individuals - we're all supposed to be anyway - but we're not - why? - because people subscribe to these romantic notions of love and life that because they think that's the way it is - that's what love is - that's what spirituality is - that's what a girlfriend is - that's what a boyfriend is - that's what individuality and freedom is - that's what affection is - that's happiness and that;s the good life - if we are all individuals, then these romantic ideas cannot be adopted and surely cannot fit perfectly with all of us

i show affection in a way only those i show affection to know about

furthermore, if we're all individuals then therefore every single relationship between two or more people has to be unique and individual also - and if this is the case, romance between a boy and a girl is meaningless - a waste of time - an act acting like someone you're not - couples will sign up to romantic relationships only to find a vastly different reality

a couple in love spend their honeymoon on a romote beach in thailand, drinking cocktails over candlelit dinners without a care in the world - that doesn't mean that the couple drinking bottled water in the alleyways of india surrounded by shit and feces aren't in love - they are - it's just not your romantic vision of what a honeymoon is

the best piece of advice a couple can discover is this: do what you want - both of you - and then you'll both be happy, because you're both happy

but you won't be happy having to force someone to be someone they're not, and that's what romance does - chocolates and flowers on valentines day? - fuck off - breakfast in bed? - it's uncomfortable and to put it simply, inconvenient - dinner and a movie? - easily forgettable - long walks on the beach? - repetitive - a dvd with a bottle wine on the couch? - a waste of time

you can't make someone do something they don't want to do naturally for a long period of time - and, why would you want to?

romance may be nice and cosey for now, but it's a sown seed of heartbreak - in enforcing it, or part-taking in it, you're tainting your relationship into something it wouldn't be if left alone to develop naturally - which is something true, honest, believable, unique and ultimately - real